They catch on my tongue, roll around in my cheeks, cause my skin to turn green or orange as I desperately try to blend in with the answers to difficult questions. Common questions send me into hiding or delay in an effort to figure out how long I have for the answer, how much I should say, gauging the situations, the environment, the person asking the questions. Easy questions like, "Where are you from?", "Okay, where were you born?" ,
"Where did you go to school?", "Where do your parents live?" Straightforward questions are unbearable tricky for me. The answers, the intersection point between my straight laced Mormon past and my activist lesbian present.
I was born in Provo, Utah, where my parents have returned to live. I graduated with a BSc. in Zoology from Brigham Young University (BYU), so simple cocktail party questions once answered, usually lead to, "Are you Mormon?"
I am, five generations back and yes, there were polygamists but then Prop 8 destroyed what was left of my relationship with the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter--day Saints (Mormons), the part of the relationship that wasn't already difficult because I kiss a woman, while still at a Mormon university.
So, sometimes it is embarrassing, in the circles I run in to admit to being a Mormon, especially with Mitt Romney, running for president of the United States. Simple questions, "Where did you go to school?" send me into a chameleon panic of does this person really want to know all the details or how can I answer truthfully without giving way too much information.
It is the same way I feel when someone finds out I speak Japanese, which I learned as a Mormon missionary, although I later returned to Japan to teach English with my girlfriend. There are lots of intersections in my life, certainly between the religion of my childhood and my sexual orientation but lots of others as well. What I have learned from navigating these canyons, like the red rock of Southern Utah, is that the part of my life that I want to hide also connect me to amazing communities, if I can just keep the self hatred at bay. If I can be comfortable in my own unique skin and share myself openly and honestly, and unapologetically, there are ways in which I can connect with anyone, not because we are the same but because we are unique but have some over lapping edges.
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