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A Trio of Poems from the book, Live Like Someone Left The Gate Open by Kimberly Burnham at The Wrong Bathroom Blog with Alex https://thewrongbathroom.wordpress.com/tag/kimberley-burnham/
Squinting Against the Light
The First Coming Out
Comments on poetry from Live Like Someone Left The Gate Open
"Beautiful poignant words spoken with softness and a little heartbreak in there too. Thank you for sharing your experience and for having the courage to venture out again." Peace and blessings. Michele D'Acostasaid (May 19, 2013)
"I am familiar with the culture you describe and the resigned heartbreak that it seems to expect and almost embrace in those who bravely say “I am gay.” They don’t know what to do with someone who isn’t seeing themselves as broken, gone astray or in need of ‘fixing’. You sound honest, open and progressive, all qualities that, though taught and promoted heavily here (I am in Utah) seem to be lesser applied when they may create a situation of going against the grain or open one to the scrutiny of others- appearances matter so much to some that I feel legit ‘do unto others’ and ‘love thy brother’ teachings go completely by the wayside. Best wishes to you, I salute your courage and am enjoying your blog." Lane (June 11, 2013).
Getting Ready. Two Weeks to the starting line in Seattle, Washington.
This summer I am going to spend nine weeks bicycling and writing my way across the United States. This is the story of my journey home.
I am not Jewish, but if you were to look at my life, it would seem like I am. My partner is a Sephardic Jew. All four of her grandparents were from Turkey and 500 years before that, Spain. We are members of P'nai Or, a Jewish Renewal congregation in West Hartford, CT. Sometimes when we can we go to Shir Hamakom, a Glastonbury musical service.
Occasionally working in Israel, over the years, I have learned a little Hebrew through personal study. I have spent several weeks in the last 15 years working in Tel Aviv, Jerusalem and Haifa at physical therapy clinics. I was there in Tel Aviv, working on September 11, 2001 but that is a story for another time.
The people I have helped using complementary and alternative medicine, probably have not cared about my religious background. The Israeli rabbi tired of fight terror with terror as the chemotherapy chased down the cancer cells, the orthodox man from New York who had to get a special dispensation from his rabbi for me to touch his face, helping to heal his eyes or the child with cerebral palsy in the Tel Aviv clinic.
I doubt if they care that I grew up Mormon, a global nomad, living in Bogota, Colombia and Brussels, Belgium because my father is an international businessman. Later I lived in Japan and Canada. Nearly half my life, I have been a foreigner, an alien, a gaijin, a third culture kid.
In an unfamiliar group, I know how to adapt, to watch and learn the customs and often I desperately want to belong, to be included, so when I signed up to bicycle on the 2013 Cross USA ride with Hazon and set a goal of raising $10,000 for sustainable agriculture through this non-profit Jewish organization, I started to think about converting to Judaism.
There was an article about the 2012 ride that described the main cyclists as 10 Jews riding across the country. I don't want it to be awkward. When asked how many cyclists are riding and are they all Jewish, I don't organizers to have to say, "there are eleven Jews and one....."
Yes, what am I? It would be understandable if you were confused, I am confused about religion most of the time. Never about spirituality, though. I am good with my relationship with God, but the religion stuff, that is confusing for me.
My ancestors are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormons) five generations back. I was born in Provo, Utah, a hour south of Salt lake City. I graduated from Mormon-owned Brigham Young University in 1982. I took a year and a half off to serve as a Mormon missionary in Tokyo, Japan.
Then I fell in love with a woman, and the trajectory of my idyllic life within the Mormon church veered off its rails. But my faith in the God of my childhood is still strong, perhaps stronger because it is no longer regulated by the rules of old, white, men.
Today, I celebrate Passover, Rosh Shana and Yom Kippur, more than Christmas and Easter. I meditate using chants and words from Tibetan Buddhism and study the words of Rumi and the Sufis. sometimes I attend services at the Universalist Church, with its powerful music and inclusive nature. My Facebook page lists me as religiously eclectic.
It is hard to describe why I probably won't convert to Judaism, even though if you watched what I did, where I went and how I pray, you might already think I was Jewish.
Perhaps, for me, it is like alcohol. What I mean is, I grew up Mormon, so when my friends in high school would say come out drinking with us. I would say, "I don't drink." Sometimes I would add that it is because I am Mormon and observant Mormons don't drink alcohol. Sometimes I would just go out with them and drink cranberry and soda or apple juice and most people never knew I wasn't drinking alcohol.
Then later on when I left the Mormon church, I could have started drinking but, I was in the habit of not drinking. I had seen enough of the damage that alcohol can wreck in people's lives that I just thought, what is the point of starting now.
Of course, when you are in your 40's or 50's and you say you don't drink ever, people often assume that you are a recovering alcoholic and don't push the issue. They don't ask. Sometimes I tell and sometimes I don't.
I think that is how it will be on the Hazon ride, those riders in my group, who I will become friends with, they will know I am not Jewish and that will be fine. And if other people who we meet along the way, assume that I am Jewish, I am good with that because there is a part of me that is.
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